Communication and Implication

What implication could one get from a conversation?

Every day we communicate with each other to express wants and needs. When we were young, we could explicitly convey needs by simply showing our intention. The intention is usually imaginative, simple and clearly defined.

When a boy wants to buy a new toy, he may nag his mother or even embarrass her to get the toy. The demeanour is much more straightforward than adults. It is relatively much easier to understand what a person thinks during childhood.

After going through countless events that shape one personality, an adult would eventually fit into the social norm. It can be manifested by refraining from being frank for getting social approval. However, the way of talk changes gradually when one getting older, yet it may not change what one thinks,

Comparing a kid with his counterpart, an adult went through various experiences and know-how to handle a particular social situation. By effective communication and willingness to cater for another, and turn the interaction into an advantage. It happens when one is aware of what happens and its consequences.

There are moments that a person is not willingly sharing what one genuinely think. It happens mainly due to consideration, past experiences, and intention. From the different personalities, an event/incident can be described in various expressions.

Back to the communication, how does one connecting the dot between the interaction with the intention? Some people are good at showing their wants to others, while others may hide it to prevent anyone understands their shadows. To understand the situation and what one means, one needs to listen carefully and be familiar with body language.

It may be easier to control what we say, yet it may feel harder to control the body reaction when reacting with a precursor. To understand a person better, one can pay attention to body language. One could be surprised by finding the subtle clue. By understanding the implication, one could improve communication through a deeper understanding of each other.

“By paying attention to how one communicates, one could understand the implication and react better to another.”

What is your communication style? Are you satisfied with your communication style?


Credibility and Fortune

How does credibility related to one’s fortune?

When one has opened a phone or going out for a walk, we would encounter some of the familiar faces, such as public figures. These public figures bring an influence in some ways. Pop artists influence society lifestyle, while politicians are steering the direction of a country.

With their influences and popularity, people would perceive these figures as precious, where create something more impactful than “ordinary people”. In other words, they possess credibility in society that people put more trust in them than other people.

The main components of the credibility among these individuals are from the exposure and impact that they have strived. When one is more familiar with a person, and when the person has a positive image among people’s perception, it will significantly improve the image of this person.

Moreover, the impact can be in various ways. A medal winner to make the people of the country proud of him. A musician composes a Billboard-hitting masterpiece that makes people crazy for him. With the validation from the public, the credibility would make them charismatic ambassadors.

However, some people are not well-known yet influential and generate some fortunes on the top of their fields. The key is not to become purely popular but become a credible person. A charismatic person is not necessarily good, yet capable of influencing people and possesses positive self-branding.

Credibility and fortune affect each other significantly. It happens especially when the primary income is through personal influence, such as politicians and artists. Therefore, one should build a self-brand and become a credible person. It is not only creating fortune, but it would also let others have respect for the person.

“Credibility is an essential element to a personal fortune. where one could cultivate it through self-branding.”

In this globalization era, which one is more important for a person? Competency or credibility?

Choice, A Life Determining Action

How does choice affect one’s life significantly?

Everyone make countless decisions in their life, from what to eat to who to marry. Some decisions are more impactful than others. If the choice is decided unwisely, the consequences will reduce the chance to make a decision freely.

The choice will result in the subsequent action to implement. For example, when one has selected a course in a university. One needs to put aside a considerable amount of time to study the course. One may sacrifice time for having fun. When one chooses the wrong path, one may suffer throughout university life.

Other than the effect, the choice also comes with a commitment. A commitment will act as a double-edge sword. It will help one to stay on a path to fulfil a greater goal. It will also make one persistent during the struggle.

When one is in a situation of having a significant choice, one should not be ignorant of the consequences. However, some may be ignorant and underestimate the power of choice. Therefore, one at least needs to be aware of the importance of the freedom of choosing. Usually, it can be known from the consequences and the time to commit the outcome.

Sometimes, it doesn’t matter how much one has tried to strive in their life. When one has made a wrong choice, the consequences will be irreversible, which one may regret. Therefore, the last thing that one can do is value the opportunity to make a wise choice. By choosing wisely, one would preserve a chance to make the next choice.

“Do not underestimate the power of choice. It is as powerful as the action.”

What kind of choice makes your life getting better?

Too Hard to Grasp, Too Easy to Focus

How to enjoy yourself more when doing a task?

Every day one is doing many tasks, whether it is pleasing or unpleasing. Some are mundane such as doing housework, while others are spirit-raising, doing novel activities or facing challenges. The tasks done will more or less affect one’s mood.

The tasks performed could affect one’s mood to some extent. When it seems boring, one could feel not challenging and unmotivated, which usually happens when it is mundane. On the other hand, when the task is too hard, one may feel stressed and losing interest in the activity itself.

Therefore, one needs to find a perfect balance to mix the task that is not too easy to get bored and some brain-intensive activity. It would make one feel great when accomplishing the tasks. However, it won’t be that ideal that the task assigned is always in one’s favour.

If a task is unavoidable, find meaning or reason will help one to get through the process. One could also set up an ultimate goal if it relates to the long term impact, with the aim it could also set up the benchmark on the progress,

Ultimately, there are things that one enjoy or hate. To fully enjoy the task, one can implement the reward system after one has completed a difficult task. When one has put a remarkable effort to make things interesting, it’s time to enjoy them.

What would you do to make your tasks enjoyable?

Music, A Recalling Experience

Will you recall a particular experience when playing a song?

Music, a beautiful arrangement that resonance, has helped one to trigger and express emotion. With countless genres, one could have a specific taste that could not replicate from one to another. One could dance to a particular melody while can’t relate to a song from another genre. Hence, a masterpiece could be a nuisance for others.

One could often express an identity through a song that one listens. It also often reflects the personality and upbringing culture. Other than the mainstream genres that influence the world, music is localized within the country. It could happen due to the language and cultural barrier.

Regardless of the uniqueness of music taste, one could listen to thousands of songs in a lifetime. While experiencing something in daily life, the experience and the song would form a brand new memory.

These memories can be recalled when one has relistened to the song after several months and years. One could roughly feel the vibe at that moment when listening to it for the first time. However, it may not happen to every song that one listen.

Practically speaking, it would be meaningful when one wants to recall a joyful experience. One could try to play the songs that are played when the occurrence. On the other hand, it would make one recall the unpleasant memory when playing it during the bad experience.

The magic of music does not only make people indulge with emotion at present. The fact that the music experience for everyone is unique, this uniqueness could make one linger the song in mind. With this music in mind, one can recall an experience that is invaluable and irreplaceable.

“The embodiment of the melody, lyric, and emotion makes music lingers in one’s life.”

What is your main feeling when you’re listening to music?

Robust System or Systematic Loophole?

Is a robust system could effectively prevent a loophole?

A plan could be an effective tool for one to complete a task and prevent mistakes. While humans behave in their self-interests, a wise and detailed plan could lead to an overall benefit for all parties. The plan itself could be in a robust system.

The robust system is developed in an extended period with trial and error. Ideally speaking, it will make one comply with the rule by being monitored by other parties. Under the system, one may feel safe that no error could occur. However, would a robust system prevent a mistake occur?

Humans tend to do things with the least resistance. If one can do stuff easier, why should one go for a big round to have the same results? Positively, a human could find a way to solve the problem easier. On a bigger picture, the part of the cause of social and technological development.

With a tendency to share the burden of error, ignorance will make one bypassing a system. With the bypass, the system would corrupt slowly and become catastrophic. Therefore, it could form a systematic loophole, which will exacerbate the system will eventually lead to the crumbling. However, what one can do to prevent the loophole?

Anything that requires human monitoring could change to machine monitoring. Therefore, the judgement would be objective and quantitative. With the current technology, humans would create a control system with less work.

When one is a system invigilator, one should implement the system thoroughly to ensure no bypassing case. If everyone thinks others will help to check through, nobody will take responsibility for the loophole formed. Finally, a robust system will work if the people believe they are impacting the system. Without the belief, it may eventually become a systematic loophole.

“The integrity of a system depends on the people who implement it.”

How do you prevent the degradation of a robust system?

Social Circle, A Support System

How does socialization support’s one during predicament?

Human needs a constant communication to survive. When one is young, it is easier to meet up with someone and be friends spontaneously. One could socialize as much as one wants with little to no responsibility faced, at least compared to adults.

With these conditions, one could make a lifelong friend with just people who interact for a short period. It could be more challenging when one hits 30 and above, where the main focus will be career and family. With the commitment, it could be harder to spend the time to hang out with friends after graduation, yet it is not impossible.

Once one has finished the education, one could have a lesser chance to meet people casually. It may cause the shrink of the social circle that could make one less social than before. Therefore, it may raise as a social issue where may have less life satisfaction.

When one has decided to sacrifice time for social interaction, it makes one less dependent on others. However, it is inevitable for one to avoid an issue that needs friends support and suggestion. One could make a wrong decision or see things wrongly, where a friend could give some inputs to rectify the problem.

Moreover, talking about emotional support, it is enjoyable to talk with people with a similar background/interest. One could easily relate to another about anything that occurs. One could make unforgettable memories also with friends.

Therefore, for the one that feels like losing the excitement of life., initiating to contact an old friend or talk with new friends would make one’s life better. Sometimes, it is hard to maintain a relationship when one does not initiate. With the initiation and maintenance, one could have a meaningful friendship that may last for a lifetime.

Initiation is a key secret for one to maintain a support system and meaningful friendship.”

How do you maintain your social circle? Do you find your social circle as your support system?

Learning to Apologize

Is it an easy task to apologize properly? How significant is apology itself?

Every person makes a myriad of mistakes in a lifetime. The consequences of a mistake varies subjectively based on the people affected. Some faults have a temporary effect, while some induce permanent damage. While a mistake is done, a sorry is necessary to ease an afflicted heart.

For some, say sorry seems impossible because of the insistence of personal value. It may be perceived as stubbornness or selfishness. While some who never committed a mistake in an incident, a sorry could come out without a further understanding of the incident. Therefore, one needs to learn the art of sorry to ease one properly.

Human tends to stick to a habit, where the mistake is a part of it. When the same mistakes are committed repetitively, a sorry will not make one feels better. When the apology has become a norm, it is not valuable anymore. Therefore, the main focus itself should shift from the sorry to the rectification action.

For the one that receives an apology, stand in the position of the one who apologizes could help to figure out the root cause. Especially when both parties relationships are ruining, communication is more effective than a mere apology.

Furthermore, a person that easily sorry to others may seem nice. Yet, it may also be not respected by other people. Although it may seem like a friendly action, yet subconsciously people may arguably think the person is a people pleaser.

At last, in my opinion, there is no ideal apology that really could satisfy most people. Yet, sincerity and willingness to rectify a mistake is a sustainable way of apology. An apology should not be the beginning of disagreement, yet be a platform for both parties to understand each other.

How do you say sorry when you make a mistake?

Bias and Conflict

Why is bias one of the main precursors of conflict?

Bias, an inclination towards a person or a group, is instilled in people’s minds. The bias that one has could be in terms of thinking fallacy and stereotyping, etc. People have different misconceptions depends on their upbringing. With the bias in people’s minds, it infers that no judgment is infallible. When the bias has reached a certain threshold, it will cause an unnecessary conflict.

When a group is having a discussion, people will give a different idea. With the different opinions, the group argument will eventually improve and making a better decision. The bias is towards the interest of certain people in a group that dominates in the conflict.

When the decision doesn’t satisfy most people interests, an imbalance of interest will be the outcome. It would create resentment that would show in protest and conflict. The problem doesn’t lay in disagreement itself, where it is based on bias.

Although not all conflicts result from bias and differences, what should one do to face a dispute? Is it from the changing of perspective or trying to avoid a conflict? Is it plausible to keep away from problems or keep on agreeing with others’ views?

To eliminate bias, one needs to respect another regardless of the position of the person. One could hardly change one’s status and background. The differences that eventually led to a bias is unavoidable. A conflict will arise if the biased mindset is unresolved.

While respect itself is unable to make one free from conflict, one needs to find a way to face it when it comes. Negotiation is required as every single decision may not satisfy all stakeholders. With respect and negotiation, most parties could avoid and resolve potential disagreements.

Respect and negotiation is a way to resolve potential biases and conflicts.”

How do you resolve a conflict and bias among the groups?

Generalist vs Specialist

Do you prefer to be a generalist or a specialist?

Understanding knowledge and information would be beneficial for one. Other than technical skills, practical information is a necessary soft skill for having a better career.

Some people master a particular area, which could solve any specific problem in their circle of competence. A specialist doctor would understand diseases of an organ and could render effective treatment to patients.

On the other hand, a generalist, a person that could have a broad understanding of various topics. In a way, a generalist could be a practical person who enables one to find topics to talk about due to broad topic exposure. In a way, these people have no specific strength in a particular field.

With the limited time that everyone has, one needs to choose a career path, a specialist or generalist. Being a specialist, one needs to dedicate his time to master the skill. Whilst a generalist would need to get the exposure that could broaden his skills set. Therefore, is there a rule of thumb or a definite answer for choosing which path?

When one lives in a small community, one needs to have a versatile skill due to the lack of proper division of labour. In this situation, then becoming a generalist would be in the upper hand. The versatile skills would help one to survive and compete in a small community.

However, the improvement of society has divided the job in a specific way, where the training is to solve a particular problem. Being a specialist is not only able to solve an issue adequately. It could also help to the improvement of general society.

In this fast-paced era where the technology and skill demand updated at an unprecedented rate, a particular skill-set may not be used in the next two decades. Therefore, in a way, one should be a specialist while should not ignore any potential for expanding one’s skill. Therefore, a proper balance of a generalist and specialist could be the best for one’s development.

“Generalize and specialize could take time. A mixture of both could make one excellent in a way.”

What are the skills that you want to learn broadly and deeply?