A Daily Bother

Everyone doing the same mundane chores repeatedly. Waking up early, going to work, meeting the same people, doing the same housework, and sleeping. A student will meet his friends and teachers on the weekday. An employee does the same routine every day with the interaction with colleagues and supervisor.

Certain activities are repeated subconsciously and occur regularly. There is also the same problem that one may bother. The events of meeting a fussy person every day, being unable to sleep every day or any minor things that affect one’s stress level.

These things can be considered minor and not significant. The lack of emergency leads one to stop looking into the problem. The ignorance may be due to the belief that it is an issue that can be solved immediately initially, that gradually forget about it.

One may argue that what matters to pursue happiness is related to something long term, such as a career plan, retirement plan, etc. However, one may ignore the issue, such as quarrelling and working stressfully, which will cause negative emotions from annoyance to resentment.

The ignorance is reflected if one looks at it in another way. Imagine if a person is angry for 10 minutes a day will eventually become more than 3000 minutes a year, which is two days per year. The daily precursor is translated into another action that bothers others.

If the daily bother happens for a prolonged period, one should face it seriously and treat it as a big issue. It requires intensive action to change the habit and negotiate with the relevant party. When one ignores it, one will form a grudge and form an inappropriate habit that will destroy oneself.

How do you treat your daily issue? Will you let it be or treat it seriously?

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A Senseless Hoarding

Will you get rid of the items that have been kept for a long time?

People get excitement in various ways. One of them is to own new stuff. Purchasing new shoes, a new laptop, or even a new car will boost mood temporarily. Humans tend to appreciate the new things, as new items will be indicated as a sign of beauty.

A new item often comes along with inactive usage of the previous one. The disposal is mainly affected by the item properties. An old shirt and phone will likely be stored in a cupboard or drawer, while an old car is most probably sold.

Moreover, as humans are emotional creatures, one may not dispose of an item because of the feeling of belonging. Supported by the guilt of wasting, prevent one to dispose of the spoiled item. It usually happens to someone that is not materialistically stable in a certain period.

The tendency and the sense of belonging will eventually result in the hoarding of unutilized items. The items will eventually fill up the whole space if no action is taken. Hoarding could be associated with one’s laziness and ignorant attitude.

Disposal is necessary to make the space look better that may eventually freshen our minds. However, it doesn’t mean getting rid of every single thing that is not used. Some items remind us of a meaningful experience that is irreplaceable, such as photos. The memory should not be correlated with the period that one uses the item, such as phones.

The feeling of wasting money and items is not the same as senseless hoarding. By sorting and disposing of items wisely, it is not only clearing out the room to make the space look better. Instead, it is the way of liberation from meaningless ownership.

What items that you have not used for a long time but refuse to throw away?

Holistic Picture or Detail Approach?

Do you have a tendency to see a holistic picture or drawn to see a specific detail?

Everyone has a different style of perceiving how things work. Some will think the bigger picture of what’s happening microscopically. Another is going to investigate the microscopic detail. The two mindsets can be applied differently in different circumstances.

However, people will tend to think in one way than another. It will result in certain people will give a similar pattern of input and comment, i.e. working and speaking style. Among people, there will be opinions that often contradict one another. However, there is a better opinion within the discussion, often due to the correct approach taken.

A person who understands the bigger picture will be suitable for managing a team to see the issue holistically. To be good at it, one needs to get exposure to various components to know what’s going on. A mind mapping skill is usually required for one to see a bigger picture.

On the other hand, some people are more capable of a spontaneous incident where the solution can be decided on the circumstances. These types of people focus on the present issue that often suggests a practical solution for the moment.

People who have a propensity towards the big picture will think more intuitively than people who think practical. However, over-rely on intuition will be struggling for a fast pace environment and disturbance. Intuition will even obstruct one’s way to action.

Conversely, solving the problem practically without considering the bigger picture may create a conflict of interest that eventually harm the stakeholders. Therefore, one needs to shift the thinking behaviour through action that will steadily train the mindset to consider both directions. By considering both sides, one will be better at solving a wide range of problems,

What action will you do to make yourself have both thinking mindsets?

A Sense of Control: A Career Approach

How does a controlling need can be utilized in a career progression?

We people have a different level of tolerance for something unfamiliar to us. For some, an acceptable risk will make one feel energized and adventurous. On the other hand, some are avoiding the risk as believing it as a threat.

To avoid the chaos from the risk, people will try to avoid or confront in several ways. The actions vary from accepting the risk comfortably, planning the solution, or even ignoring it. These actions have something in common, the sense of control.

The sense of control varies between people. Some people feel like to control, being controlled, or neither of them. The controlling tendency largely depends on some incidents, hardship, and family upbringing that affects personality development.

A person that has been spoiled when he is young, facing a family problem, or having a trauma will tend to be a controlling person. On the other hand, a person that is constantly overprotected fall into the category of being controlled. A plausible reason is due to the inability of expressing wants.

A good team should have the correct ratio of people with a controlling/submissive tendency. The team could not work well if the proportion is not fair, where it will create some inherent problem that can’t be solved apparently.

Moreover, once one has understood the tendency to control, one should aim to the correct position to achieve a positive outcome for oneself and the team. By positioning oneself in a suitable place and with the right proportion of people, a team in a career will flourish and become invincible.

“Understanding a need of controlling and utilizing it will build up the chemistry of a team and make a fulfilling career.”

How is your tendency to control everything?

A Figure to Follow

By following a figure, does it reflect what kind of value one has?

In this world, there are countless successful people in their fields. In their areas, a figure inevitably has some followers or admirers. There are thousands and millions of fans that freak out and are meticulously lookout for the actions and behaviours of their idol.

Other than idols, some figures demonstrate outstanding abilities in their fields. The demeanour they figure express emanates the quality that the admirers desire. By exhibiting this quality, it piques people’s inner desire to be the person they follow.

The figure available in society is not always the one that has the positive quality for the others. As there is no definite right or wrong on a person’s value, the figures in society exert their influences in different ways. With influence capability, a person may get more approval than others.

By representing the value of a group, a leader who is subjectively having a distorted view may be followed by a mass. By showing resonance to the public, he is depicted as a hero to deliver mass aspiration.

A villain could be admired through his charisma and fighting the existing system and structure. For instance, Robin Hood, despite stealing from the rich, the poor have supported him due to his ability to fight the structured social system.

A figure’s personality and capability may be admired and influencing. It could affect one’s actions and behaviour. Therefore, it could bring an impact on their followers. View from another perspective, a person’s value can be seen from what the person follows. Therefore, to be ideal, it is substantial to choose the correct figure to follow.

What kind of figure that you wish to follow?

Intention: A Interpretation of Emotion

How to pick up an intention through understanding emotion?

Every day we will encounter a range of emotions that indicates the mood of a person. One expresses emotion distinctively based on the situation, circumstances, and person. Based on the mentioned factors, emotion can be concealed, exaggerated, or expressed freely.

It is common if a kid is crying when getting a bad grade. When one is growing up, one could better control the emotion to fit in the social norm. An adult who expresses emotion bluntly to others will deem as impulsive behaviour.

The emotion can be controlled and developed through the experience. It is common to see a grandpa is wiser due to the experiences that shape his view. The self-awareness that one possesses is often polishing traits into an ideal.

When humans are getting information externally, the precursor will catalyze specific reactions. For example, when a person is informed that his house is on fire, the immediate response is either being anxious or shocked. After one is trained emotionally, the reaction could alter in a better way.

The alteration will conceal intention by not directly showing the authentic feeling to another, believe that others will misjudge. However, there is still some cues to detect people wants.

A track record of the previous action can be harnessed as a good gauge of intention. When the emotion expressed differs from the past action, there is a discrepancy in the impression. When the disconformity appears frequently, one could understand the response shown is not always what it is.

Moreover, some emotions could be interpreted to certain emotions in certain circumstances. For instance, a person that praises abnormally can be seen as a sign of hostility or expressing materialistic behaviour.

It could take a long time to master emotion control and emotion reading. People act accordingly to one another that the mask only can be seen through the aftermath. However, by scrutinizing the emotion, one could see the indication and understand people more deeply. By understanding the intention, one could protect oneself and adapt oneself to socialize.

“An apparent emotion can be interpreted to a hidden intention through scrutinization.”

How is your way to understand other people intentions?

Standard, A Quality Controller

How does standardization improve the quality and removing bias?

Everyone has their own opinions towards something. When executing a task, everyone solves the problem in their way. Moreover, with different results, people could easily argue if there is a difference. With no reference, the debate hardly will produce an acceptable outcome.

Various numbers of students are taking countless papers to test their academic capability. There is someone who is deemed capable of assessing the students, teachers and lecturers. With the competency and standards that the teachers possess, it could maintain the quality of the students.

The standard is not only playing the role of improving the quality. It could also be used as the rule of thumb to solve a problem. Litigation will follow the local law to resolve the dispute. If there is no proper framework for resolving a dispute, the litigation could be harnessed and misused by unintended parties. The consequences eventually lead to overall regression of social equality.

The standardization could also be harnessed to maintain a uniform product where any defection could be detected through the mismatch of the product properties. By standardizing a product, a customer will expect the same quality and progressively build a strong brand that delivers high product satisfaction to the customer.

Quality control could happen if the standard is made after countless revisions and constant improvement. The quality can be created and improved by the experienced one, with the mindset of accepting new ideas for improving the standard.

Maintaining a standard could not only remove the unnecessary prejudice and bias that humans have. It could also become a guideline of how a thing should become. Therefore, by following a standard, it could solve countless problems and creating a better life.

“Standard is a clear solution to tackle bias, solve problems, and controlling quality”

Do you think a standard is necessary? How could it help you in your daily life?

Exposure, Trend, and Action

Why is the awareness of exposure so crucial to a person growth?

The human brain is triggered by a series of eye-catching incidents. These events are catching people attention by generating immediate gratification. Without this setting, drama, news, and controversial actions would not be omnipresent.

A person reaction could be affected by the length of exposure of these precursors. If the exposure triggers a short term action, it would usually form a trend macroscopically. A sudden market crash, a blockbusting movie, and a viral new restaurant are prime examples of short-term exposure.

The main selling point of the events is the short-term excitement that they offer to people. The short term reaction triggered by the events often brings little to no effect. Other than the short-term excitement, it is often not productive at all. In this era, this short-term exposure created by the relevant parties harnessing people short term reaction hopes to look for an interest in the short run.

With less excitement, an action that creates long term exposure is often less attractive than the short term one. However, the effect that it brings is often monumental that define a lifestyle. For instance, the hobby that one has will the decision-making and spending habits of a person.

Even in the absence of exposure, the impact will be chronic to a person and carried throughout the rest of life, given there is no sudden perturbation. For instance, a dopehead will be addicted after a period of drug usage, even after he tried to stop it.

Regardless of the exposure time, people are constantly and deliberately giving each other exposure through communication. It will have a positive and negative impact depends on the decision. Therefore, it is crucial to realize the potential exposure before one indulges in it. Because after one gets lost, it would take a remarkable effort to neutralize the exposure.

“Aware of the potential exposure, avoid the potential trouble.”

What kind of exposure that you wish to avoid?

Maturity and Responsibility

How does being maturely related to responsibility?

Growing up seems like an inevitable process that everyone must go through. A child may aspire to be an ideal figure after grown-up, primarily to be impactful in society. During the childhood and adolescent period, one is likely to be full of imagination and potential.

After slowly understand how the world works, imagination and potential will gradually substitute into reality. With the exposure from the environment, the alignment shapes the equilibrium between fantasy and reality.

When one is young, one can be carefree and impulsive. Avoid schoolwork while hanging out until late at night often come with little to no consequences. Moreover, one could be assessed as attractive by fighting the system and being rebellious.

The sudden increase of responsibility getting obvious when one has started dedicating oneself to a career. When one ignores being responsible, one may face consequences that may be detrimental. It prohibits one acts recklessly and complying with a social norm.

When one just graduated from school, one may still enjoy life by hanging out and live in the present. However, when one has reached middle-aged, the need to have some result in some aspect such as family, financial, career, etc.

With the growth of life quality, people need to work lesser to gain the same output. With a protected environment, one may get older with no willingness to take responsibility. Long term speaking, the effect could be dangerous to a person by increasing the dependency on other people.

To have a steady mindset, one needs to have a willingness to bear life responsibility. By not avoiding responsibility, one could transform the predicament into a memorable memory. It could also let one become a mature person with great inner strength.

“The courage of facing responsibility is a clear sign of a person’s maturity.”

How do you assess the maturity of a person?

Detailing and Productivity

How does detail will make things getting productive? Is it always like that?

The advancement of life quality can be accounted from the ability of the human to scrutinize and innovate. With the ability to innovate, one could solve the issue and propose a beautiful and creative solution. The innovation can be through the continual improvement of the system or through mastering particular skills.

By paying attention to the minuscule, one could understand what the root cause is. However, there are several pre-requisite to identifying the cause. First, one needs to be exposed to be gain the understanding to a certain level. Second, one needs to focus on the big picture and act in the interest of all stakeholders.

A group of untrained laymen theoretically would not contribute a significant input to solve a scientific or engineering problem. By giving them too many details, the group will confuse and eventually does not bring any progress.

People desire on understanding the details may not always lead to a solution. It occurs when the party getting information yet is unable to change the outcome. To some extent, it could waste a significant amount of time just only because of the desire for detail. Some activities such as meeting, making an additional report, and redundant protocol could prevent the progress.

In the workplace, these detail will lead to micromanagement and unrequited effort. Initially, the initial intention is to make things getting smoother. However, it may lead to a delay of work and an increase in group stress.

Detail may help one to understand what is going on. However, over-focusing may not increase productivity. Despite the fact, insight can help to solve the problem if one could harness the information effectively. On the other hand, understanding a situation without any concrete action will not keep things going.

“Detail can be useful and helping one getting more productive if harnessed effectively.”