Bias and Conflict

Why is bias one of the main precursors of conflict?

Bias, an inclination towards a person or a group, is instilled in people’s minds. The bias that one has could be in terms of thinking fallacy and stereotyping, etc. People have different misconceptions depends on their upbringing. With the bias in people’s minds, it infers that no judgment is infallible. When the bias has reached a certain threshold, it will cause an unnecessary conflict.

When a group is having a discussion, people will give a different idea. With the different opinions, the group argument will eventually improve and making a better decision. The bias is towards the interest of certain people in a group that dominates in the conflict.

When the decision doesn’t satisfy most people interests, an imbalance of interest will be the outcome. It would create resentment that would show in protest and conflict. The problem doesn’t lay in disagreement itself, where it is based on bias.

Although not all conflicts result from bias and differences, what should one do to face a dispute? Is it from the changing of perspective or trying to avoid a conflict? Is it plausible to keep away from problems or keep on agreeing with others’ views?

To eliminate bias, one needs to respect another regardless of the position of the person. One could hardly change one’s status and background. The differences that eventually led to a bias is unavoidable. A conflict will arise if the biased mindset is unresolved.

While respect itself is unable to make one free from conflict, one needs to find a way to face it when it comes. Negotiation is required as every single decision may not satisfy all stakeholders. With respect and negotiation, most parties could avoid and resolve potential disagreements.

Respect and negotiation is a way to resolve potential biases and conflicts.”

How do you resolve a conflict and bias among the groups?

Generalist vs Specialist

Do you prefer to be a generalist or a specialist?

Understanding knowledge and information would be beneficial for one. Other than technical skills, practical information is a necessary soft skill for having a better career.

Some people master a particular area, which could solve any specific problem in their circle of competence. A specialist doctor would understand diseases of an organ and could render effective treatment to patients.

On the other hand, a generalist, a person that could have a broad understanding of various topics. In a way, a generalist could be a practical person who enables one to find topics to talk about due to broad topic exposure. In a way, these people have no specific strength in a particular field.

With the limited time that everyone has, one needs to choose a career path, a specialist or generalist. Being a specialist, one needs to dedicate his time to master the skill. Whilst a generalist would need to get the exposure that could broaden his skills set. Therefore, is there a rule of thumb or a definite answer for choosing which path?

When one lives in a small community, one needs to have a versatile skill due to the lack of proper division of labour. In this situation, then becoming a generalist would be in the upper hand. The versatile skills would help one to survive and compete in a small community.

However, the improvement of society has divided the job in a specific way, where the training is to solve a particular problem. Being a specialist is not only able to solve an issue adequately. It could also help to the improvement of general society.

In this fast-paced era where the technology and skill demand updated at an unprecedented rate, a particular skill-set may not be used in the next two decades. Therefore, in a way, one should be a specialist while should not ignore any potential for expanding one’s skill. Therefore, a proper balance of a generalist and specialist could be the best for one’s development.

“Generalize and specialize could take time. A mixture of both could make one excellent in a way.”

What are the skills that you want to learn broadly and deeply?

Reflection, A Self-Understanding Action

How does self-reflection help one to understand oneself?

A mirror is used to see appearance. Whenever it is used, it reflects anything that passes through it. Within the reflection, everyone could see the objective reality that could be interpreted differently.

Humans would behave accordingly based on other’s actions. When one actions, others react instinctively based on their best interest. Despite people could act based on their best interests, do people understand their actions?

Any action does not have a correct answer. The differences would also lead to arguments, discussion, and different opinions among people. One could understand whether what one did is correct or not based on what others see.

However, it is not necessarily accurate to let others define you. It would make one people-pleasing while losing genuine identity. With a balance of understanding and reflecting, one of the approaches is to consider opinions from others. A collective message from people is aligned and show the proximity with the social norm.

It is easy to understand the world from our senses. However, none of our five senses can understand our inner emotions and actions directly. A constantly thinking and listening is fruitful after the execution of every move. A balance of thinking and listening is the key to understanding one’s inner self.

A constant reflection does not only make a person understand own flaw and weakness, but also orients oneself to achieve life satisfaction. With the willingness of listening and emphasize on others, one could be self-aware and self-conscious.

“Being reflective, one could be more responsible with every single action taken.

How do you understand yourself? Is it from reflection or other ways?

Protection and Freedom

Have you been stopped to do something risky by your parents when you’re young? How does it affect your growth?

A child, a potential, is necessary to be nurtured and guided by the parents. With a dependent and fragileness, a child is often fragile and protected by their parents. Under the prolonged upbringing, a child’s behaviour would be based on the environment the child in. Arguably, a family has the most significant impact on a child’s growth.

The dependency would usually decrease from the exposure that the child experience from the world. On another side, a protective attitude would inhibit a child from exploring the world. Stereotypically, it happens in some families that hold a conservative value.

When a child is trying to ride a bicycle, the parents are stopping him from trying out. Because the parents are afraid that their child would have an injury, they try to protect their child. Denying the possibility of declining the curiosity of the child would transform into avoidance. When the child has grown up, he/she would likely avoid the overcome the obstacles.

Indeed, protection is necessary when the child is facing some hardships. The role of the parents is to provide safe shelter physically and emotionally to their offspring. To become a reliable support system, the parents can take a friendly approach that closes the gap between parents and child.

On the other hand, a child usually is easily affected by any influences. The influence varies from the positive examples that inspire to the destructive environments that would let one astray during the growing process. Therefore, the freedom that is given should be limited to a certain extent.

It is challenging to provide a child chance to experience but preventing a child from getting astray. With the protection, the parents are protecting their fear. With the lack of dependency, the child would grow out of control that would grow infamously. Therefore, a suitable degree of protection and freedom is needed by a child to grow confidently.

Parents play a huge role to provide a necessary protection and freedom to their offspring.”

Do your parents make you regret based on their way of raising you?

The Right Man on The Right Position

How does one maximize his/her talent?

When having social interaction, it is not hard to find other people strength based on their action. Some manifest through their hobbies, while others manifest it through their dreams and goal. While everyone bears a unique talent, one is more suitable for pursuing a specific career than the others.

Some people are expressing their talents by unleashing their potential through constant training, self-alignment, and self-reflection. The enjoyment and passion when one facing a challenge has made one go through all obstacle. Eventually, it makes one honing oneself into a better being.

The effort itself is not enough for one to be successful. The fact that everyone defines success differently, the general public would have a consensus on successful traits. Successful traits are closely related to work and life satisfaction. Therefore, what makes one feel successful and satisfied?

Firstly, stability comes when the work can keep the subsistence, which is a basic human need. More than that, self-actualization is required to make one feels more meaningful. However, before countless steps to actualize oneself, what is the first action?

Everyone has a different competence level and personality, where makes one suitable in one position than another. To be realistic, not everyone wants to be on the bottom of the hierarchy level. However, the right position should be held with the right person to maintain the order of society.

For one at the bottom of society, one needs to increase the competency through constant exposure to manageable challenges, such as studying, trying out new works, training, etc. It is relatively hard to change one’s personality as it is affected by the environment. Therefore, one needs to do the work that is suitable for one’s personality.

Sometimes when one is not doing well on the task. It is not necessarily due to indolence. On the other hand, competency and personality could impact the synergy. Therefore, it is wise to re-orient the capability to achieve maximum output. With the re-alignment, one could feel meaningful and valuable.

“By improving one’s competency and personality, one could optimize oneself and satisfy with the life.”

Do you work in the right position? If not, what is your action?

Appearance, Does It Matter?

Appearance, does it that important?

In this era, with the development of the economy, where one could afford something more and have time to pursue a lifestyle. Pursue a lifestyle has become a way for one to have self-actualization. One aspect that one could pursue lifestyle is through fashion and beauty.

Everyone has a different scorecard for beauty. People tend to enjoy something more beautiful. Although it sounds cliché, yet some are not aware of the importance of beauty. A particular society could have a stereotype of not only in term of good or bad but also happens in terms of beauty.

The culture of appearance has deeply instilled in the society, where globalization enhances people standard of beauty. Despite there is no fixed standard, there is a consensus of what one considered beauty. This argument could be supported by the development of influencer and stars that usually has set up a standard of beauty for society.

In a trivial way, when one is asked whether one considers attractiveness based on appearance. Some may reply that appearance does not matter. The answer may make one believes that one is not a superficial being. However, one could not deny the human nature of one’s propensity for appreciating beauty.

The importance of beauty does not mean that one should disdain people with less attractiveness. However, one should be aware that appearance is the way that how one is responsible towards life. Imagine if a guy does not properly shave the beard or never bathe. It does reflect one’s attitude towards life.

The appearance that one has is built up based on habits that are difficult to be changed. However, one could change it slowly through constant feedback. Appearance is not merely a superficial aspect, but it reflects one’s attitude towards life.

Do you think that appearance matters? How important that you think it is?

Revealing the Unwanted, Overcome the Fear

When encountered an issue involving others, why one needs to open up?

“Oh no, I have forgotten to turn off the boiler …. “, ” Ahhh … I forget today there is an important meeting…”. It is also stressful and annoying when one has to forget some key events. While some events would bring a domino effect that severely affects others, it is anxious to tell other people about issue in an emergency.

The fear of disclosing the problem is mainly due to several reasons. The fear of criticism from others could be the main reason why people refuse to tell the truth. Other than affecting self-esteem, but it could make others question the ability to solve issues.

Another reason is the belief that things will go well without telling anyone. When one has breached the rules, one may believe it could be ignored and passed eventually. Sometimes it may work while the issue is ignored. However, it does not always work in every scenario. Therefore, one needs to evaluate whether needs to tell the incident.

It may not have consequences if one has committed a mistake when one is young. When one grows older, one may bear more responsibilities in various forms – career, family, etc. It is inevitable for a human to make mistakes. However, when one has gone astray and denying to admit. In a way, it could lead to a catastrophe in one’s life.

For instance, a corrupted official has refused to admit his mistake. To hidden the issue, he threatened others by using his power. The ignorance of the rectification is not only destroying the personality and of the transparency of his agency. Willful blindness from his action would bring negative consequences to the people.

To sum up, one may have fear telling the truth when it is unfavourable to the truth-teller. However, one needs to overcome the fear and bear the consequences and responsibility before things getting worse. By rectifying the issue, one becomes mentally stronger to face further challenges.

“By rectifying the mistake, it does not show one’s weakness. Instead, it shows the willingness and perseverance to solve the problem.”

What will you do if you encountered an emergency issue?

Personality: Impression vs Understanding

How does a first impression affect one to understand somebody?

When meeting a new person, one would try to understand behaviour based on the first impression, attributes, and status of a person. If a person is well-behaved and has a better conversational ability, the person could receive more positive feedbacks.

The first impression is profound if you are in a new environment or large social settings. In a new environment, it is essential to make an impression that meets most people expectations, which is not clearly defined. On the other hand, in social settings, the first impression is fundamental for define one’s position in the social network.

One may perceive others based on the first impression. With the proximity effect, one could relatively amplify the perception towards a person if one has a chance to get close with a person. If one has a good impression, one could have a much better impression, and vice versa.

In other perception, if one wants to get an in-depth understanding of a person. It is essential to observe the behaviour of one during the interaction with other people with a different attribute. From there, one could see what is the value of another person and not following the first impression,

Moreover, a clear understanding beyond the first impression will improve communication. The communication would be more effective and benefit both parties, with the condition when applied wisely. By consistently having the same personality with the impression with the ability to understand people, one could provide value to the others.

How do you understand people around you?

The Courage to Facing Issue

When facing an unfriendly person, are you going to avoid it or facing it bravely?

Every day various challenge comes either from external or internal. While facing a challenge, one’s attitude often deciding the outcome of an issue. With countless possibilities, one could solve the problem with little to no effort. On the other hand, another has anxiety caused by the difficulty to find a solution.

Human, with a dualism personality, is often the one that generates the problem for one another. Depends on tolerance, one prefers a person with favourable traits. It depends on the value that one believes. On the other hand, if it is against what one believes, one may suffer and avoiding them.

When facing the people that possess traits that against one, one would change and adapt the behaviour to handle people. Therefore, the behaviour differs from benefitting other people, such as tolerance, submissive, and distress. There is also behaviour that confronts others from arguing until fighting back.

It is confusing to decide whether to tolerate other behaviours or voicing out unpleasant feeling towards another. One faces it frequently when encountering an authority. If one gives in on the problem, it will induce resentment and erode one’s confidence. On the other hand, directly confronting them would harm oneself.

Instead of winning over an argument and being resentful, one needs to be objective and rational to find the root cause. Ideally speaking, it could be challenging for most people if the issue is related to personal behaviour issue. However, being objective does not mean people themselves are not the root cause.

If the confrontation is unavoidable, facing it straightly could be the best solution. By fighting for own rights, one could retain the respect of other people and let others know your boundary. On another side, one could be braver in facing issues and keep being strong in adversity. Therefore, when one is facing a problem, standing straight and facing the issue courageously.

What kind of issue that you need to face straightforwardly?

A Fragile Persona

Why an inconsistent persona makes one getting fragile emotionally?

Persona, an individual identity, is a character that delivers from a person to his/her environment. Because of a multitude of personality and characteristic, everyone has a persona that distinguishes one from the others. From the persona, one subconsciously hopes others to perceive oneself from the way one presented to others.

Due to one needs to be accepted by society, one’s persona sometimes differs from the real identity. The differences are worsened by social media makes one tries to share how perfect life is and what kind of achievement one had. In a way, it shows what a person cares about not only from social media but also from the way one socialize.

When one aims ideally towards a persona, it could make one changes into a better way. Positively, one could aim for the best to have that ideal persona. A hardworking student is trying his best to achieve a better grade. A novice singer rehearses regularly to have the hope of becoming a rising star. The difference between a persona and oneself motivates oneself to pursue an identity that resembles one’s ideal persona.

On the other hand, while one is over-obsessed on a persona while not working towards it in their real life. It will generate hiatus between an identity that one tries to shape and the inner self. It is an issue particularly for people under other’s attention, such as politicians, artists, influencers, etc. It doesn’t mean that it will not happen to an ordinary person.

If one could pay less attention to what other people thinks of oneself. The persona that one delivers would have a less obvious hiatus with the inner self. Human needs status and validation for their psychological needs. It would be challenging to integrate their persona with the inner self, especially since the persona is formed from a series of dishonest actions.


One should try to integrate the ideal persona that one wishes to be with the action. Moreover, one should not promote a fake persona. Other than it would generate an adverse psychological impact, it would also intoxicate others into aiming an astray persona. Therefore, a robust persona is a way to get self-validation and self-actualization.

“A persona is ideal, but do not let the ideal destroy your emotional state.”

What kind of persona do you have? Is it the real persona that you wish?